Shakespeare Writes But Is Wrong
AKA - I won’t compare thee to a summer’s day
Shakespeare - I’m sure he was a lovely Brummie lad with quill skills way beyond anything I can get my head around but I do take a bit of issue with his famous sonnet (although if we’re being really honest we only know the first few lines, right?)
Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate.
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer’s lease hath all too short a date.
Obviously, it’s beautiful and I’m merely using it as a way to shoehorn a very important topic about the dangers of comparison. Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? I don’t think Shakespeare considered that the look of a summers day would be me trying to chase after two kids in order to slather them in sunblock or the look on my face after I remember I haven’t shaved my legs in a week (read; month) and have already left the house in an above-the-knee-dress. Hardly poetry in motion.
Comparing yourself to others will always result in lowering your self-esteem and confidence. Stop comparing yourself to people on social media, friends, other parents, previous employees, exes (in all senses), your peers, your squad, your co-workers, your family, your idea of where you were twenty years ago, the next door neighbour who seems to have it all. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO ANYONE. You are you. Focus on what you value, what you believe in, what fires every cell in your body and focus on that alone. Do this with grace, and while supporting those around you and you will feel ten feet taller than you do now. You will free yourself from so much BS that all of a sudden your confidence and self-esteem will explode. Why? Because you’ll never truly believe in yourself while you’re wasting energy on what other people think.
Be kind.Be patient. Believe in yourself.